Need advise on how to explain my rape?

I was raped a little over 4 months ago. I went to the police and am seeing a councilor. At first, my significant other left me, but came back because he knew that leaving me was wrong. But now, my boyfriend's family doesn't believe what happened and thinks that I cheated on him instead. How can I show them what really happened without making things harder for me?Need advise on how to explain my rape?
Gosh! I'm so sorry!





But don't sweetie, don't explain!...





if you have to explain this to someone who says he/she loves you.... believe me... he/she doesn't.... it's a waste of breath! And it will make things harder on you. It happened... that's it!





lavictima(dot)comNeed advise on how to explain my rape?
You've been through so much and you have enough on your plate as it is without trying to prove yourself to some ignorant tossers. You've already gone to the police which is an amazingly courageous thing to do - there are far too many rapists out there getting away with it because most rape victims are too afraid or ashamed to go to the police. You've done the right thing. Be proud of yourself.


Just concentrate your energy on healing and getting as much as possible out of your counselling sessions. Take as much time as you need. Whether or not your boyfriend's family believe you is completely inconsequential, because this has nothing to do with them.
I am so so SORRY this happened to you.I had a similar situation happen to me when I was 13. I was sexually abused by a family member..and when I told my family they didn't believe me. My own father did not believe me. To this day they don't believe me. What I am trying to say is my situation is not as bad as rape but they may never believe you. I know that you want them to believe you but the sad reality is that they may not. I tried for years to convince my family but they never believed me and they never will. I accept that now but it sucks that they don't. So, You don't have to explain anything to to them. If they don't believe you that's their problem. You can't keep on hurting yourself trying to convince them. I hope this helps you. And again I am so sorry this happened to you.
over time, as they get to know you better, their suspicions will fade.


sitting down and having a heart to heart with them could help. let them know you are in counseling about the matter. giving them the name of the officer who took the report and giving them the case number may help. if they have it stuck in their heads, as i said it will just take time. you owe them nothing. you owe it to yourself to take care of yourself. it is bad enough that you are dealing with this rape, much less what they think. will there be an arrest or court trial or have you chosen to not go through that? it is all your choice. focus more on you and your well being than on them. focus on your personal relationship with your bf. what they are thinking is most likely just temporary. please don't worry about it because that in itself will make things harder on you. blessings to you.
I'm very sorry for your troubles, and I wish you the best of luck in the future.





Ask your councilor for a report, and get a copy of the police report. Show them some photographs of the bruises you got, if you have them. No sane person will disagree with that kind of evidence.
Forget them, they will never except that you are the victim, they sound like horrid folks.


As for your b/f, at first he could not handle that someone else touched you, he may be ok, maybe not, he could have a relapse, with his family.


Go to YOUR family, friends. Stay away from his...or him too...get better....


see the therapist, you were VIOLATED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!



May-be let them see a copy of the police report. Honestly you shouldn't have to prove anything to them, if they don't believe you that's on them. As long as you and your boyfriend understand what happens that all that should matter.
Some rapes are better left un-reported.


--Ray