My 12 year old son told me tonight he wants to kill himself, advise?

My son was diagnosed with depression and adhd after his dad/ my husband was killed in Iraq. But my son came up to me crying and told me he was having some bad thoughts and that he was feeling worthless and he wanted to join his dad. I comforted him and everything. And now he is on the couch asleep but i don't know what to do he is scarring me so bad. He see's a therapist and a psychiatrist. Advise?My 12 year old son told me tonight he wants to kill himself, advise?
Take him out of the therapist and psychiatrist, how do you think your son would react, he will think that you put him in there, because you don't love him, and that you are ignoring him, Your son is going through an emotional drama, lonely, confuse, depress etc....of the loss of your husband, and now he thinks that his loosing you too, and that you are not paying any attention to him anymore. Your son is thinking this is the end of his world, because not you or any body is listening to him clearly to how he really feels inside, and thank goodness he told you, that means he cares, he was just letting you know whats going through his mind and soul. He will say all kinds of bad words to you, and he really doesn't mean it, He wants your FULL ATTENTION. Comfort.





Sit him down, ask him to help you understand what he really wants, do not say a thing when he is talking. just listen, just you and him, together, be his therapist and psychiatrist, let him know that you are there for him in many ways, this is about you and him now and no one else, you need to be strong, cause every child needs there parents so much, even if they loose one, i can understand were your son coming from, but a son needs his mother now, and having to talk with him will mean that you are listening, he is your first priority, try it, you will get there slowly. These things take time for him to heal. Work as a team, I am sure your husband is there to guide you both.





good luck.


KKMy 12 year old son told me tonight he wants to kill himself, advise?
Call the psychiatrist now. S/he must have an emergency or after hours number. You might also check to see if there is a suicide crisis line in your community, In the meantime, watch him. Stay with him tonight; Call a friend or relative to help if you feel you can't do this alone. Try not to make a big deal of it in front of him - that could actually scare him. Try to be calm and if he brings it up again, reassure him that he can get help and he WILL feel better.





Adolescents can have some really intense emotions that pass just as fast as they came on, but you don't want to take a chance. Treat this seriously but don't panic. Good luck. You love him and you are taking care of him. He will be fine.





I am so sorry for your family's loss.
If your son is being serious about this it is important that he talks to someone about it. I think that it is a good sign that he came to you. Some signs of suicide are if a child is giving away his prized possessions, or if he is making threats. The suicide hot line is always a great option also. You can call them 24/7 and tell them your situation. They will be able to give you awesome advice. I'm sure they are listed in your area's phone book. The national number is 1-800-273-TALK (8255).
I agree with what most of the people here are saying. Take him to emerg and let a professional have a talk with him. They'll ask him a series of questions and if they feel that he is an immediate risk to himself they will admit him for observation. It's great you have him in therapy, but what about you?? Do you have someone to talk to, as it is a difficult time for you as well.
This needs to be taken seriously. You need to contact the therapist and psychiatrist ASP. In the mean time try and keep and eye on him. He needs to grieve, be able to cry, and needs professional and your support ever inch of the way.


We adopted a 10 year old boy, who lost both parents in a car accident. It takes along time to heal. Even after time has passed, it still comes back when he is feeling a bit sad for any reason.


Fell free to contact me if you want further information, or feel I can be of any more help.


( Connie Mom of 4 and 5th. Grade Teacher )
He needs to be admitted to a psychiatric hospital. Seriously this is not to be taken lightly. When my brother and talked about suicide we had him admitted for help. He stayed for a week both times and by the time he got out he was much better. He will be able to be watched 24 7 at this hospital, you can't be that vigilant.
Keep your communicatiom with your son open. Keep him in therapy. If it doesn't seem to help him get another one. Your son is crying out for help. He lost his daddy and he doesn't know how to deal with his loss .He needs grief counciling. Do you have a church you go to, they can help a lot. Your son and you will be in my prayers.
Call the psychiatrist RIGHT NOW. They can be paged. Tell them what he said. You may need to put him somewhere where he can be watched. I would watch him all night to make sure he doesnt try anything.


Take it seriously that he wants to die. Dont leave him alone for a second (even in the bathroom I would make him leave the door open a crack).
I work in the health care industry. my advice to you is to take him to the nearest ED (Emergency Department) or doctors clinic.





They are the best people for treating this unfortunate situation and have people trained in this field.





All the best!
You should not be waiting for answers here. Please take him to an ER ASAP.





I lost my best friend to suicide. Please don't wait, you don't know what can happen when you turn your back.





This is not an Attack; it is real heart felt concern.
';My son was diagnosed with depression';


Go get professional help please!!!


Ask random people on the internet is barely the answer to your problem.





Don't trust random stranger on the internet with life threatening issue.
It's just the stress of it all, he wants his dad. He needs you, his friends, and any male influences in his life present, he needs them at this age. Hope this helps
Call his therapist and/or psychiatrist immediately, they should have an after hours answering service. Tell them what you just told us. Do not leave your son alone. Are you seeing someone as well?
Consult suicide hot-line or something. Don't take this lightly.
I have some advice for you. Get Off The Computer!!!