Thursday, July 29, 2010

I am in need of some advise, how can i get over the death of my son?

Me and my wife have been married 5 years and it has not been good. Our son died at age 3 from a seizure he had, and he died in me and my wife's arms. But she wants another kid and i am totally against it i can barley live with myself, anytime i see or touch my wife i see my son. I just i dont know me and my wife both went to grief counseling, but i just cant live with my wife anymore its a daily reminder to me loosing my son. And i dont know what to do advise?I am in need of some advise, how can i get over the death of my son?
Im extremely sorry to hear about your loss, I cant even imagine what you and your wife are going through.





It seems like you've associated your son's loss with your wife which is not healthy at all. Remember that it is not your wife's fault she is just a victim in this circumstance just as you are. The best thing to do in times like this is of course try and stay positive but to also stay close to friends and family that care. Your wife has also been affected by this and if you two stick together you'll find you can easily understand and relate to each other. If you're not ready to have another child just yet then try and explain this to her and the reasons behind it, i'm sure she can understand. Perhaps attending a few marriage counselling sessions would be appropriate just to get you guys back on the right track. Leaving your wife because you no longer love her is one thing, but to leave her because you're trying to avoid the loss you've suffered is not fair to either of you.


Best of Luck!I am in need of some advise, how can i get over the death of my son?
I just want you to know that it is perfectly normal for partners to have problems and blame each other when they go through the death of a child.





I am glad that you guys went to grief counseling, but maybe you need to go to a counselor by yourself so that you can talk freely and get rid of some bad feelings and resentments. Sometimes people are so focused on being a couple and healing their marriage that they forget about themselves as a person. Having some ';ME'; time with a counselor will greatly help.





My best friend and her husband just lost a daughter that was less than one year old, and they are having some of the same problems.
Please do not take out the death of your son on your wife. She was the mother of that beautiful child and it will always hurt her.





The key to remember is that you have each other! this is important!..before you had a son you had your beautiful wife..your wife is your soul mate and your partner forever!..





your son was an extention of your love but not the SOURCE of your love. The Source was your beautiful wife..every time you see your wife you should be happy you think of your son..he came from her!..








Ofcourse have more children..you will see your son one day again..but for now see him in your beautiful wife..remember your son came from your wife..you son did not produce your wife..





Your wife by the love of God brought that child in the world and she can do it again..


You need NO counseling..it leads to blame..you need on thing..BE A MAN and love that woman like the day you first asked her to be your wife,,Love your wife the way your son would have..and see your son in your wife and smile...
GOD BLESS YOU BOTH ! What a most wonderful gift...a son. Make sure your prayers


for your son, yourself and and your precious wife


are frequent. When you touch your wife , remember...she brought your son into the world.


For three years or more. What a blessing! I recommend that you touch your wife with a warm heart, give thanks to her, always know your first born is in heaven. Please pray...another son?Will


the Dear Lord Our God Bless you three times?
go see a psychologist or psychiatrist.


if need be, get a recommendation from ur primary doctor.


u may want to try counseling on ur own.


u may also want to try support groups.


they may have people who have been through what ur going through


and can empathize with what ur feeling.


as for ur wife, try marriage and/or continue with group counseling also.


hopefully it will work out for u both.


words cannot even describe what ur going through.


all i can say is i will pray for u and ur wife.
Sir I know its hard but you should move on with your life. Stay strong and keep moving or you'll get swept away by how fast life is.

Hi there has anyone got any advise about group interviews as i have a uni interview?

i have no idea what is going to happen , what should i do and not do . what will they be looking for and what should i wear help thanks all xxHi there has anyone got any advise about group interviews as i have a uni interview?
In any group setting they want to see that you can find balance between putting yourself forward (not too shy to make your point) and letting others have their say (don't hog the show or talk incessantly). Show interest when others have the floor and try to keep their interest when you have.Hi there has anyone got any advise about group interviews as i have a uni interview?
Because group interviews can catch you off guard, you should keep the following in mind.





1.Be prepared for confusion and noise. Don鈥檛 let them make you rush your answer or feel pressured.


2.If possible, learn who the panelists are ahead of time. Find out their names, who is in charge, and who has the most clout.


3.If possible, determine why a group interview is being used. Is merely convenience, to create stress, or to save the interviewer time and money? This information may indicate how to focus your answers.


4.Appear confident and in control. Keep a relaxed posture, including open body with chin down, direct eye contact, neat, appropriate dress, and natural gestures to convey a positive attitude.


5.Make your answers direct, brief, honest, and sincere.
In a group interview make sure you have eye contact with each person and acknowledge their presence. If one person asks a question, make sure you answer them but don't ignore the others.





I have done several interviews with my Managers and the people who didn't look at or acknowledge all of us, wasn't on the short list as this was considered rude.





You will find that they are managers or in charge of different departments and will therefore ask you questions in relation to their ';area';. When this happens, just make sure you answer their question truthfully and if necessary, also mention other departments whilst looking at the person in charge of that department.





As for what you wear, I would wear something smart and comfortable.





Good luck.
Make sure you have some questions for them. They'll give you a chance to ask questions at the end and it shows you're bright and interested if you have one or two to put to them.





Assume the interview is to go to uni as a student, not professor lol. Just wear something comfortable. Smart casual will be fine, they are expecting to see a student, just don't wear anything too OTT in either direction.





Try to be relaxed and smile. They just want to know that as well as being prepared to work hard at your studies you can work on your own initiative and have the maturity and confidence to mix well with everyone, tutors and fellow students alike. They'll be nice to you so don't worry.
Wear something smart- casual. More smart than anything. In the group interview they will probably give you a topic to discuss. Just speak up. I am the most shy person you will ever meet but I had to make a point of speaking up. They are mostly looking at your personality at this point more than your knowledge.





Good Luck- Im sure you will be fine!!!!

Advise on what supplements to take?

I've been going to the gym for quite a while now, I've been thinking of taking other supplements rather than just my multivitamins. I like my body size already, i just want leaner muscles and less fats. Im reluctant to take whey protein because I dont want to be very big. Im thinking about taking creatine and glutamine. Pls advise guys. Thanks. Im a noob at this.Advise on what supplements to take?
To get leaner cut back on your carbohydrates late in the day. This means eating a salad and lean protein for dinner and avoiding bread, pasta, and rice.


Stop eating 2 hours before bedtime.


Do these things and you will get lean quickly.


Creatine is used for gaining size so avoid it if you don't necessarily want to get bigger.


If you are happy with your current size and just want to lose a little fat than you shouldn't need to add supplements to your training program.Advise on what supplements to take?
Whey protein has less of a bulking effect when taken with water instead of milk. You can go ahead and take whey, and watch your carbs.





Also, if you just want to get leaner, use light to medium weight and a higher number of reps. This will get you more cut.





Hope this helps!
  • colorsilk
  • Advise on considerations on choosing the right kind of dog?

    first find one that you particularly like, then read all about it, then get it... any dog can be a good dog with the right trainingAdvise on considerations on choosing the right kind of dog?
    Choosing a dog breed should always be based on your dog experience, many breeds are not for an inexperienced owner and second your activity/energy level. Your energy level should always match that of your dogs. but if you do to the website www.dogbreedinfo,com they have a breed selector quiz there. It is actually pretty helpful. You put in your criteria and it gives you breeds that match you and your needs.Advise on considerations on choosing the right kind of dog?
    honestly dont get so stuck on a specific breed.. go to your local shelter and look at the mixed breeds they have their... unless you require a purebred because you are planning on showing it.. a partbred dog can be a brilliant choice...





    learn the traits of the more common breeds in your area.. eg Border Collies are common here but are NOT good house dogs for people with little time - they are intelligent and will be destructive if left too long without a ';JOB';.





    do you have kids?? if young NEVER get a puppy..


    do you have fenced yard ? and how high?


    how much grooming are you willing to do?? (non-shedding dogs require daily brushing and monthly trips to dog groomer)


    how much time do you have for a dog?


    why do you want a dog?





    NEVER NEVER get from a pet store - they will lie to you about the traits of a breed simply to get a sale - they are in it for PROFIT not for the best interest of you or the dog...





    visit your local SPCA or shelter and learn first...
    Depending on whether you like big dogs or little dogs, shedding or not. Where you live, what size of area you have to roam depends on the size, or if you have children. I have If they are long hair they require more attention, or if you have to clip them can range from 25-100 dollars. I have two Shih Tzu's which are very loving and affectionate. I do spend $60.00 every two months to clip their hair, frontline $50.00, but the love and companionship is priceless.
    I think Wuuzle's right on the mark with their answer ;)
    Not only do you need to evaluate your current lifestyle BUT your future plans in the next 12 years. If you plan on having kids choose a kid friendly dog and socialize him around kids of all ages. Way too many dogs are dumped by owners when they have kids, it is possible to have kids and dogs at the same time. Don't think a 3lb Chihuahuha will be safe around any kid, they break very easily. If you plan on having kids will you continue grooming your hairy breed or would a short haired breed be better? Or less likely to track in dirt or shed. Will you continue jogging with your high energy dog or get a more mellow one who would forgive a few days off from jogging and be satisfied with a 30 min ball playing session. You may be OK with a toy guarding dog but your kid will get bit. I have some dogs that would not live well with kids although they tolerate petting but even when I was younger never wanted kids myself. So a food aggressive dog would not harm anyone here but no kid would be safe.
    Go to eukanuba.com and they have a puppy selecting tool there for you. You can also go to exoticpets.com and there is info there.


    Basically, just be honest with yourself and figure out what you can handle schedule-wise and time committment-wise.


    If you want something fairly low maintenance, you could get a fish tank.


    Also, snakes and lizards are pretty cool if you don't mind feeding them whatever they require, live bugs or mice or whatever.


    Good luck.
    Questions to ask yourself:





    1) how active are you? A high-energy dog like a Lab might not be for you if you are a low-energy person.


    2) do you work away from home? A puppy needs more care than just seeing you in mornings and at night. If you are out of the house for most of the day, get an older dog.


    3) how much shedding are you willing to put up with? ALL dogs (except hairless ones) shed. Dogs with longer, thicker fur shed more than dogs with short fur.


    4) do you travel a lot? You can take smaller dogs on a plane as hand luggage.


    5) do you have young kids? Smaller dogs can be more easily hurt by over-zealous children.





    Here are some quizzes you can take:


    http://www.dogbreedinfo.com/search.htm


    http://pets.blogcarnival.com/archives/20鈥?/a>





    Other links:


    http://dogs.about.com/cs/breedprofiles/a鈥?/a>


    http://www.weeno.com/art/0499/35.html
    Did you not just ask this question?!?

    I am 39 weeks pregnant and 3 cm dilated and 100% efaced I have tried everything to put me into labor. Advise?

    I have tried walking, sex, castor oil, Red respberry leaf tea. This is my second and I just want to meet him. I am not sleeping at all. I really dont want to get induced. Anyone have any advise for me????AI am 39 weeks pregnant and 3 cm dilated and 100% efaced I have tried everything to put me into labor. Advise?
    Play with your nipples if youre ready to go into labor this will do it, or else try black kohosh tea, but be warned, its disgusting.I am 39 weeks pregnant and 3 cm dilated and 100% efaced I have tried everything to put me into labor. Advise?
    Don't do anything. Your baby is not ready to meet you yet. Think about it, how would you like to be dragged out of a nice warm womb with drugs and toxic substances. You don't have to be induced, ever. Just relax, wait, eat and pamper yourself at this time. Most healthy babies are born 10 days after an estimated due date. Having two children increases the workload exponentially. You will have 18 years to gaze upon the face of your child, make sure you have given your baby all the ';womb time'; possible. It is highly likely that this could be your last pregnancy, enjoy it and the excitement and anticipation of birth. Waiting until your labor starts naturally will give you a better result both for you and baby. Best wishes, G
    I have heard that sex can bring labour on... But if you've tried everything already there's a good chance that there is a reason he's not quite ready yet. Try to relax and get some much needed sleep and let the little guy come in his own time. It is probably safer that way...
    i know you dont want to hear this, but youre just gonna hafta wait, he will come when he is ready. keep trying those things, and concentrate on making sure you have everything ready for the hospital and bringing the new little one home. sounds like you'll be in labor very soon. best of luck to you.
    Spicy hot Vindaloo curry and a drive over some speed bumps ...Or phone the midwife and beg her to give you a sweep ..(internal) that will definitely start you off ...
    Wait until he is ready to come out.Being induced is hell and most of the other ideas don't work. He will come when he is ready.
    i feel your pain. i've tried walking and sex and it aint working. im sick of ppl saying babies come when they want lol.


    i want my lil man out too!!
    pineapple, avoid spicy food since you did the casor oil things and many squats. many many squats
    Im asking the same question right now but im not dialated.. i wish you the best and if something works for you let me know... ughhhh i feel your pain!!!
    Take a warm shower, and let the water hit your back, while you do squats. Try spicy foods, and pineapple too!
    Please be careful. I would advise you ask your doctor/ mid wife. Good luck and congratulations!
    Don't try so hard... it will happen when the it is the time to happen.


    Most likely within a week anyway.



    I am in need of some advise, how can i get over the death of my son?

    Me and my wife have been married 5 years and it has not been good. Our son died at age 3 from a seizure he had, and he died in me and my wife's arms. But she wants another kid and i am totally against it i can barley live with myself, anytime i see or touch my wife i see my son. I just i dont know me and my wife both went to grief counseling, but i just cant live with my wife anymore its a daily reminder to me loosing my son. And i dont know what to do advise?I am in need of some advise, how can i get over the death of my son?
    I dealt with this, unfortunately. My 12 month old drowned in the bathtub when the babysitter left him alone. Anyway, you need serious counseling. It really helps. If you are in any way religious, turn to church or your pastor. You're projecting the loss of your son on to your wife, which isn't fair to her...not her fault. This is a time when you and your wife need each other the most. It was rough for my husband and I but we made it through.





    Condolences.I am in need of some advise, how can i get over the death of my son?
    I know you know this, but do you REALLY think about the fact that you wife might be going through the exact same thing. The fact that you can't live with you wife anymore...this is...sad but you can also over come it. I personally have never lost a child, however my aunt Donna has. From her experience I can say...you will never get ';over'; it. It will always be with you. The important thing it to be able to remember the fun, good, and plea sent times. Instead of seeing the horrible thing that happened when you look at you wife try to see all of the good. And having another child might be just what you need. Love your new child twice a much for your lost son. It will never take away the pain, trust me, but it will relieve...guilt. I'm sorry I couldn't be of more help.
    I can't even imagine that. I just want to say two things, I know it's cliche but what would your son have wanted? Would he want to see you mourning for him indefinitely? Or would he want you to be happy and share the love you gave him with another child someday? I think we both know the answer. If you are really not ready for another child yet, at least open up to your wife about it. Don't lose her, you've already lost one person you loved.
    Oh my goodness. First of all, I am so sorry for your loss. I can't even imagine how completely horrible that must be. I think you need to really continue the counseling, and possibly go to counseling by yourself, without your wife. Don't have another child with her until you're ready. Try talking to her about it, she'll understand. She loves you, and you two need each other. Especially in a time like this. God bless, honey.
    Condolences.


    It's a hard thing, but why do you blame your


    wife for something that is not her fault?


    Anger is part of the grieving process, and you have to get through it,


    not misplace it.


    More counseling might be in order.


    Again, all sympathy for your loss.
    Unfortunately, many marriages don't survive the death of a child.





    BUT - I think you need counseling for yourself alone. You need to talk, to grieve. You may think that that's all you've been doing but men find it very hard to talk about their feelings. YOU NEED TO TALK ABOUT IT!!!
    You totally need help. You, guys, should go to a grief counseling %26amp;/or marriage counseling ASAP... Leaving your wife won't get you over your son's dead. Actually, I could be even worse

    Am a single parent with 3kids have a five day notice to pay or quit. late on my rent 9days any advise please.?

    I really need help no food can't find a job in vegas. but have never been late on my rent please help if you can out there.Am a single parent with 3kids have a five day notice to pay or quit. late on my rent 9days any advise please.?
    Grow a couple of **** and apply for Aid to Women and Children. AKA welfare.Am a single parent with 3kids have a five day notice to pay or quit. late on my rent 9days any advise please.?
    Do you get child support or do you normally work; are you on welfare? Do you live in subsidized housing? If you have a church that you attend, they sometimes have funds for situations like yours. Food banks can assist you. I don't know what a five day notice to pay or quit is so I can't address that issue.
    im sorry i live in las vegas too.. try to go to criaglist.com and click on the tab where it says ';free'; and they sometimes give free food or clothing beds.. but as for money try to babysit??








    good luck :)


    xoxo Nancy

    Going back to work after being at home mom and having a lot of problems finding a job I need some advise.?

    I had worked as a nurse and also a hairdresser but I don't want to do either of those jobs. I've been appling at all kinds of places but most want an extensive work history with references from at least four of your prevoius jobs and two of my last four had the business close. The jobs before that were at least 7-9 years ago. I'm at a loss here. I want to work with people and do something I enjoy but nothing seems to be happening with all my applications. Any suggestions?Going back to work after being at home mom and having a lot of problems finding a job I need some advise.?
    Do not list the jobs you did around the house as was suggested by another poster...develop a good resume with a good cover letter that lists your skills first and then your previous positions. I am willing to bet that you learned some great things in your previous jobs that will relate to your current search. For example, as a nurse you probably developed skills in multi-tasking, prioritizing, managing heavy workload, people relations, etc. A temp agency is also a good idea.Going back to work after being at home mom and having a lot of problems finding a job I need some advise.?
    Apply to jobs you have experience or skills in. You could be a secretary for a salon or office, etc. Give personal references, instead. They'll see the gap in your work history anyway.
    I have a home business in the health and wellness industry that you can do from home or you can market any way you want. Because of the many medically validated benefits of this product, it is really catching on and incomes of $10k/mo are not unusual.


    By doing this you are creating residual income and freedom to pursue your other interests.
    Try looking for help in the want ads for homecare workers .
    Temp agencies?
    Trust me, I completely relate to what you're going through and I'm going to give you some advice that someone gave me and I am very thankful for it. The job market isn't exactly an easy place to be right now and if you've been out of the workforce for a significant amount of time, you can be looking for months and you won't find a job. The best way to do it is to work for yourself. Find something you want to do and make a business out of it. You can start a business with barely any money and if you do enough research, you can really make it thrive.
    Dont give up, keep applying. It's a tough job market out there. Be sure you have a resume. Get a list of people who will give you a good reference. Put down in VERBs on paper what you did, for example - Styled hair, Tended to hospice patients etc. Good luck!
    How about applying at a daycare , to be a lead caregiver, you could have your child close by,that is if they didnt go off to school, and you have a step up from other candidates bacause you are a mom and that shows you have patience...





    Good Luck!





    Also try going to a temp service, they can always find people a job!
    Use your stay at home mom skills as points of reference. Money and time management, leadership, working with sometimes uncooperative ';clients';
    I ';covered'; the years by listing out all of the duties that I had around my household and other things that I did. As a consultant, you could do anything. You were a driver, a caregiver, a chef, a maid, and a business manager. You also were detailed oriented and had great time management. Running a household is hard work, especially if you did it well. You can say that you were a consultant covering all of the things that you've done over the last 7 (which should be tons).
    Nursing is great if you are a Mom, you can get your whole work week over in 3 days. Try an outpatient surgery center. Whole different ballgame than a hospital.





    Advice, you need advice.
    I am a stay at home mom and I have become an Arbonne Independent Consultant. As an Arbonne Independent Counsultant you're in control of your home-based business. Set your own work hours and income goals, enjoy a great disount on


    arbonne products and possibly earn residual income when you sell and sponsor.





    checkout my website: odanigirl2.myarbonne.com
    try an employment or temp agency, they will help 'tweek' your resume so that it will be more focused toward what you are looking for.

    Ok, so i took your guys' advise and offered two trades. Please tell me if you think they are good or not?

    The first one is I give Manny Ramirez and get Jose Reyes.





    The second one is I give Bengie Molina, Hideki Okijima, Jose Vidro, and Barry Zito and get Johnathan Papelbon and Jacoby Elsbury. That takes care of my speed and saves.





    Evaluate please.Ok, so i took your guys' advise and offered two trades. Please tell me if you think they are good or not?
    They're really good trades for you, but more than likely won't get accepted. Manny is a 2nd round pick, while Reyes is a top 5 pick. Reyes is the best player for steals in the MLB.





    I agree with you in trying to get rid of Molina, Vidro, and Zito, but there's no way that deal gets accepted. It would possibly get accepted if you just went after Ellsbury, but there's no way you get Papelbon.





    I would wait until the season starts and use the waiver wire to your advantage, or just make more even trades. See what the other player is lacking and give it to them in exchange for what you need.





    Hope I helped!Ok, so i took your guys' advise and offered two trades. Please tell me if you think they are good or not?
    yes
    If you're in a league where you can get Reyes for Manny you need to find a new league that's a little more competative and/or active - that's the biggest rip off I've every heard of





    Pretty much same thing on the 2nd trade, you're giving up a bunch of garbage for the best closer in the game, Elsbury is even better than anyone you're giving up





    Seriously, it's Feb 2 and you're all over fantasy baseball already, you need to find a league that's more in line with your interest level





    Bottom line is, if you get these deals done, respectfully withdraw from the league, but don't be surprised if you get laughed at or ripped on for making these offers
    they are all good
    First trade: I would take Jose over Reyes, but would have to consider the rest of my roster first. Reyes is going to get you runs, and stolen bases. Manny is good for a lot of RBI's and HRs. What do you need most?





    2nd Trade: I don't blame you for wanting to dump Molina, Vidro, and Zito. Good players but not dependable for great stats to win a fnatasy league. You can offer all four of them but you will not get Papelbon. You may be able to get Jacoby cause not every one really knows how good he is yet.





    If you were offering me either of these trades, I would have to say no. sorry.
  • colorsilk
  • I am only 17 but i am interested in getting into stocks but don't really know where to start any advise?

    Get a very great discount online broker. Tradeking.com is the best, I use them. 4.95 per trade and they provide excellent tools to learn. Start with a little bit of money and practice what you learn. Investopedia.com is a great site to learn a lot too. They have a free online stock game simulator where you can learn even more and buy real stocks, real time with fake money.





    After you get hang of it...start to learn option trading. That's where the real money is.I am only 17 but i am interested in getting into stocks but don't really know where to start any advise?
    Rule #1 is to diversify. The more you place your money in 1 stock or even one sector, the higher the risk. Stock mutual finds are typically a way to do this. Select a highly rated fund with a good track history. Index funds, especially Equity index funds are favorites for low risk with a good diversification. They follow market trends, so if it's up, they are up. There are Contrarian funds, which buy against the market (if it goes down, you make $) but these also can lose $ in a down market. Bonds are thought to be safe, because they pay premiums, but you can lose if the value of the bond goes down.I am only 17 but i am interested in getting into stocks but don't really know where to start any advise?
    Stock Market is a very risky is a very risky thing to get yourself into, I advise you to get a stock trading robot that makes money in the stock market for you. I have done this before and these robots can give you amazing results, around at least 132% of what you put into the stock market you will profit back if you have stock trading robots. try doublingstocks.com





    hope this helps
    I can help there is some web sites that allow to invest directly with the company . www.computershare.com , www.adr.com www.melloninvestor.com . you will need anywhere from $250 to a $1000 all depends which invest plan you choose . after you make the minimum invest after that its $25 to $100 to purchase additional shares . some plans will waive the minimum if you allow them with draw $50 month from your bank account . also check out T-Rowe Price Mutual funds they are very flexible good people to work with . His majesty is proud taking control of your financial future .feel free if need anymore advice
    Click on the planning and education tabs at vanguard.com, investopedia.com and troweprice.com.

    Advise on decorating small room?

    Ok so i want to decorate my room in a bollywood, gypsy, india(n), moroccan kinda way. The room is like and 11x11 room and idk how to paint it to look bigger. My colors r, Hot Pink, Lime Green, Electric Blue, And Bright orange and so any tips on decor and especially painting r much appreciatedAdvise on decorating small room?
    Okay... the first thing to start with is FABRIC!





    Find the bohemian-type fabric you want to use as your drapery or bedding. You will then take the cues from the colours in that to paint your walls. Painting the walls first and then trying to find a fabric to match is nigh impossible. Find the fabric first.





    Here's a pretty cool example of something I think you might like. Forget what it is, and the price, what you're looking at is just the style and colour:





    http://www.justmorocco.com/pd_moroccan_p鈥?/a>





    Here's another cool site with a bed throw I think you'd like very much:





    http://www.moroccan-furniture-decor.com/鈥?/a>


    ________________________________Advise on decorating small room?
    I thought they were really cool too! Once you get your fabric, and decide on wall colour, it will all start coming together. Every time you go shopping, stuff will just pop out of nowhere that will go perfectly in your new room!





    Thanks so much for the Best Answer vote; I appreciate it everso, *s*

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    Found another really cool place... hope you like it!





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    The style you're talking about is usually a lot about pattern. Mix the colors you love in fabric, wallcovering, area rug, art prints. One way to make the room look bigger is to use an open patterned wallpaper either allover or on the top 2/3rds of the wall. Paint a darker color below or use a multicolored stripe. If you can only do paint, make the upper part lighter than the bottom. Never divide the wall in half, make the bottom (darker color) about 1/3 and the top (light color) 2/3. This will make the room feel larger as it is anchored with the heavier color on the bottom. Put a fun border between the two colors. Also, paint the ceiling at least a shade darker than the top of the wall (make it a grayed down version of your wall color. This will also make the room feel bigger and add to the bohemian richness. If you can find some inexpensive sheer fabrics in your colors, consider ';tenting'; the ceiling by gathering lengths together in the center and draping it to the wall. Also, lots of pillows in different colors and fabrics. Have fun. It sounds like a great room to spend time in.
    The best way to make it look bigger is to do a light color, I guess and electric blue would be the lightest, and then have cool posters/art on the walls. Then what you do is have your light source, whatever it is, directed towards the decorations on the walls rather than down. That will make the room look bigger.
    Mirrors are great. Also focus on the height of your room. Dark colors blending to lighter colors as you go up the wall. Hang the curtain rod above the top line of your window-- makes your room more expansive. Have fun!
    U can place a big mirror on one wall of ur room...ths will add space to ur room...the mirror can be of life size....

    Are there any online resources to advise you about dodgy housemates accessing personal details?

    Our housemate has on two occasions accessed my partner's telecom account (first time it was the ISP account, the second time it was the telephone account). He has since disclosed our new address to 3rd parties and has told our landlord that we are moving out and given him our new address too (we have not yet given notice because we are not close to moving out). I am training to be a lawyer and am doing my own research on this but would appreciate any practical advice and would like to know if there is an English website that provides advice to people who live in shared houses (we live in England)Are there any online resources to advise you about dodgy housemates accessing personal details?
    laws are laws, they apply to anyone committing crime against you, even if they are in your own family.Are there any online resources to advise you about dodgy housemates accessing personal details?
    Get rid of this person by threatening him/her with prosecution for theft. You need to keep all of your bills, id's etc away from this person. Separate mail boxes, lock boxes, is it worth it?? Get them out of your home.
    Tell him that you have decided to move somewhere else..... and at a different date...........(Oh but he already told the landlord )...........well maybe he shouldn't have spoken about information that was none of his business. Or that he really knew nothing about. Just tell him lies from now on and just kick back and laugh at all of the wrong info he passes on.

    Advise and ideas on places to go things to do around las vegas and grand canyon with kids?

    Coming over end of May / June, would appriecate advise on the above.Advise and ideas on places to go things to do around las vegas and grand canyon with kids?
    How old are your kids? My list of things to do with 14-17 year old kids is going to be slightly different than a list of things to do with 5-9 year olds, etc.





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    .Advise and ideas on places to go things to do around las vegas and grand canyon with kids?
    best places for kids in las vegas are wet'n'wild waterpark,also circus circus hotel which has free circus shows all day,shark reef at mandalay bay,tiger enclosure at mgm grand hotel,pirate show at treasure island hotel,also the erupting volcano at the mirage hotel,worth a visit to m and m's world and visit downtown in the evening and see the spectacular light show
    There are so many options - you can get giddy! Prices vary, so try booking ahead if you can - we also find this avoids the headaches of the tantrums when the kids can't do what they want to(!)





    I used the attractions page on www.comparethefare.com to buy a PowerPass, but there's loads of sites out there that can provide tickets before you go (we booked ahead as we were traveling interstate with the kids)
    If you want to see some splendid things and breath fresh air rent a car and go out into Red Rock Canyon.You won't be sorry
    If you're in Las Vegas go to the hotel Circus Circus and there you'll find free circus acts all day, as well as the world's biggest indoor theme park. The entry fee gives you unlimited access to all the rides all day.
    vegas is the best city in the world!





    for kids, try circus circus adventure dome, lion habitat at MGM, white tigers and dolphins at Mirage, various rollercoasters, M%26amp;M world, flamingos at the flamingo, bellagio fountains. the list is endless!

    Why do so many little girls turn to yahoo answers for weight loss advise?

    I see girls ages 9-14 on here every day in droves, asking things like ';How do I lose weight in 2 minutes?'; and ';How much will I lose if I starve myself?'; and ';OMG I AM SOOO FAT, I WEIGH 50 POUNDS AND IM FAT!!! HELP?';


    Seriously, it's disturbing, and not just because you've got sixth graders freaking over weight. These kids know nothing, and there are dumbass users who give answers like: ';go barf'; and ';stop eating, you fattie'; and ';Go on the fruit diet, and only eat fruit for a month';Why do so many little girls turn to yahoo answers for weight loss advise?
    I agree %26amp; it sad to see , wheres there parents?


    I think society has ruined there self image,what a shame*Why do so many little girls turn to yahoo answers for weight loss advise?
    You're totally right. I am fed up with stupid girls trying to lose weight at any cost.


    It seems as if nobody realized they are one step from anorexia, especially when you hear morons who want to go and starve themselves just to lose weight.


    I've had it with weight lost. Aren't there far more important things to worry about? And where the heck are those girls' parents??
    It's despicable. And a lot of these girls have not fully hit puberty yet, so some of them that do go on these diets really screw up there bodies for a long time. I hope more people can be positive influences on them on this board, because it can really prevent a lot of damage.
    Yeah nowadays pre-teens and teens go here to call themselves fat and every one's questions are retarded because they're all skinny. The people who are overweight don't ask on here.. most don't. They still have time to grow and once they are older they can worry about how fat (not really) they are.
    Beats the hell out of ';What's the Jones' Brothers' telephone address?'; and ';Where did Milly Cyprus get her bath mat?'; questons.





    Then again, maybe not. Any wonder why America is the laughingstock of the world?
    I know its so annoying. I've seen pictures of girls ages 9-13 wieght themselves thinking their too fat. I wish they would stop putting so much attention to the media and just think about themselves.
    I agree that it is sad, but they will eventually lean what is good for them from trial and error. Trust me, there are many more saddening issues in the world than this.
    Haha, so true - attention seeking brats, wait untill they come into the real world, their weight will be the least of their worries!
    I totally agree.


    its really sad.


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    Advise on settnig up a motorcycle repair shop in part of my small garage?

    like what type of necessary tools and equipment for minor reapairs,cleaning.and about how much to get started. I would like to do this without buying a bookAdvise on settnig up a motorcycle repair shop in part of my small garage?
    balancing repair machine ,,,,,,,,,,,,,30,000 us enufAdvise on settnig up a motorcycle repair shop in part of my small garage?
    Do you even know how to repair motorcycles? If you did, you wouldn't be asking this question. I'll give you the short list.


    -Complete set of hand tools. Sockets, wrenches, pliars, screw drivers, hammers.


    -A little more exotic - Tire irons, punch %26amp; chisel set, screw extracters, hand held impact wrench, drill %26amp; drill bits, universal oil filter wrench, universal fork seal driver, ratio rite cup, oil drain pan, snap ring pliar set, complete set of feeler gauges, I could go on forever. You'll just have to buy tools as you need them.


    -Every bike needs it's ';own special tools'; - Flywheel puller, valve adjuster. You get the idea.


    -A little moe expensive - Torque wrench, multi-meter, compression tester, floor jack, tire bead breaker, air compressor, parts cleaner.


    -If you just want to do tune-ups, oil changes, tire replacements, trouble shoot electrical problems, carb cleaning, change brakes, chain %26amp; sprockets. You can probably get started with $500.








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    I would not let you do a compression check on my bike if you too cheap to buy shop manuals.


    Go to all of your area shops and find out how to get online access to repair all years and models of bikes. Spend you profits on local advertisement and keep all reciepts for tax write offs. Go to county court house to file for a ';ficticious business name'; and make sure you tell em you will NOT be doing oil changes or else you will have to have all sorts of containment vessels.
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  • advise about birthday party invites from school?

    I have a son 5 yr old and a step son 5 yr old who both live with us full time. they go to same school but different classes. my son got a invite to a costume birthday party, should i not take his step brother too? i hate he doesnt get to go but i thought it might be rude to bring an extra kid. what are the rules on this? advise about birthday party invites from school?
    Several ways you could handle this.





    You could call the parent and explain your situation and ask if it would be a huge intrusion for the step son to attend the party as well. He probably didn't get an invite because he' s in a separate classroom. Apologize to the host and offer to bring something to help with the party (like a bag of chips; some candy; etc). If the party is at a party place or where the host is paying for the number of kids to attend or for them to participate in some activity (bowling) then let her know you'll pay the extra (and then actually do it). Most hosts won't mind if you call ahead to work out the details. If it's a sleep over, I would not recommend it or if the host is having to transport the kids to an activity, again, too much inconvenience. Under the circumstances you describe, I certainly wouldn't have a problem with the addition of another child.





    You could take your step son on a special outing to see a movie or out to dinner so that he's attending a special outing. You might ask him if he's comfortable attending the party where he won't know many of the kids (except your son). He may not even want to go.





    I would take this as an opportunity to sit down both kids and explain that although they are the same age and attend the same school, they won't always have the same friends and from time to time, one of them might get an invitation to do something that the other won't.





    Kids are more understanding that parents sometimes give them credit for.


    advise about birthday party invites from school?
    I would say that the invite was intended for the child it was given to, not his siblings. His brother will get invites at other times.





    I have had birthday parties for my two and had uninvited siblings bought along without the mum even asking, I think it is a bit rude really.





    When planning a party, you cater for those your child has choosen to attend, and that includes party bags too.





    I am surprised how many others think that it is ok to 'put the parent on the spot' and ask if you could bring the uninvited child along! This is life, sometimes we get invited and sometimes we don't. Even if the party is in a big hall, the birthday child may not know your stepson at all and wonder who he is!
    I would write a note to the parent of the other kid explaining the situation and asking if you can bring his stepbrother too - and say explicitly that you will not be offended if they say no. It might be a big party in a hall, one more will make no difference, and she simply didn't realise your son had a stepbrother the exact same age - or it might be something more expensive with a set number of taken places only given to special friends.





    Easier to do it in a note, because then you don't have to put the other parent on the spot. You could even say ';I'll assume it's not okay unless you tell me otherwise.';
    You can do two things:


    Call the mom of the birthday boy and explain the situation. Ask about the possibility of your step-son attending and offer to pay his way. Party places charge about $10 per child these days so it's not cheap for the host to have to pay for another child. What about other parents that are also in your shoes? Does that mean the hosts have now 5 extra kids on their hands?


    or


    You might want to consider taking your step-son out for a fun one-on-one time while your other son is attending the birthday party. Take him someplace fun and buy him ice cream or something.





    I have two children about the same age and I've been in your situation.
    Ettiquette on party invites is that the invitation is for the invited child only. Yes, you are right to think it would be rude to dump off an extra kid at the party. It is and wouldn't be appreciated. I'm sure there will be parties in the future that the other child is invited to and not your son. It happens with kids in the same household. It is equally as rude to call the other parent to ask if they can come or write a note asking to do so.
    No, you do not take your step son to the party. Your son was invited to the party because he knows the classmate and it would be a breach of manners to take someone to a parter that is not invited. The birthday boy probably doesn't know your step-son. This is a good time to explain to him how things like this work, that probably in life both of them will get invited to things without the other. Take him to a special lunch if you think he feels very bad about it.
    You should ask the other parent first before you bring the other boy. Sometimes the invite is only met for the person that it is intended for. The parents may only want to have the amount of children that they have asked, and maybe the parents don't know your other child, or the child who is having the party may not know your other boy well enough.
    You don't bring an additional person unless the invite says +1 or ';and guest';. It's positively rude and presumptuous to do otherwise. Calling the host to ask is rude too, it puts them on the spot.
    You could call the parent and ask if he can go. Most llikelythe only reason he didn't get an invite is because he is not in the same class not because the other child ddoesn'tlike him.

    Another good quote: What is this quote mean? 10 points for the best advise. Thank you?

    “Several hard-core Star Wars fans who had tickets for the first showing actually said that when the movie finally began, they started crying. Mainly because they realized that it's 22 years later, and they still haven't lost their virginity.”Another good quote: What is this quote mean? 10 points for the best advise. Thank you?
    You were put on the earth to make your own choices. Anything that you do you will be the one who pays the bill. Don't think about what they do you think about Can I look myself in the mirror and say I feel good about me?Another good quote: What is this quote mean? 10 points for the best advise. Thank you?
    AND THATS SUPPOSE TO BE SHAMEFUL AFTER ALL NEG%26gt; SH!TS THATS GOING ON IN TODAY!!!!THATS GOOD FOR THEM!!!!

    Advise president elect Obama as to what kind of foreign policy he would undertake/?

    Not an opinion question.Advise president elect Obama as to what kind of foreign policy he would undertake/?
    Just talk to Bush, he has it down. Don't mess it up. Bush has the very best working for him and they have done an excellent job.





    Continuity is what we need. Our country infighting and the new president changing things for purely domestic political gain will only make us look vulnerable to our enemies ... especially Russia right now. They are watching us like a hawk and will jump on any slack we give out to take it up quickly.Advise president elect Obama as to what kind of foreign policy he would undertake/?
    Keep an eye on Russia... and don't phuk up because we are watching you... we are watching your every move and the second you slip we'll be all over you like Bill Clinton on a hot intern.

    I need to know if i should eat or drink on an empty stomach? thing is im trying NOT to throw up. Advise?

    i dont know if i should eat food before i drink vodka tonite or just drink on an empty stomach. if i throw up, my night will be ruined and tonite is very important. what should i do?I need to know if i should eat or drink on an empty stomach? thing is im trying NOT to throw up. Advise?
    You should definitely eat, but just eat something light. Dont eat too much, just something to fill your stomach a bit.I need to know if i should eat or drink on an empty stomach? thing is im trying NOT to throw up. Advise?
    i eat something light 4 hours before i drink vodka


    so its digested..like bread..and my stomachs empty


    i didnt throw up


    youll throw up if your really full
    You should eat a good meal before going out or drinking. But leave out sweets. Avoid absorbing a lot of spirits in a short period of time. Do not over exert yourself. Let someone know where you will be, how long you intend on being and when you expect to return. All of this helps to reduce any misgivings. Let your escort know your plans. Remind him you are to adhere to your schedule not his. If you decide to bust a move and go home with him, let your people know. Let them know if he comes home with you in advance of your arrival. Taking the nervousness out of the equation reduces bodily acids and keeps down problems. Cover yer butt. Makes fer a much better date.
    You need to eat. But do it in moderation. Eat something light like mashed potatoes or some fruit. Do not eat anything spicy or fast food. Vodka is terrible to drink on an empty stomach. Have fun!

    Dose anyone know where to get free download repair manuals or walk-through advise on washing machine repairs?

    i would go to the local library as i have noticed as i have noticed them all makes................Dose anyone know where to get free download repair manuals or walk-through advise on washing machine repairs?
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    Dose anyone know where to get free download repair manuals or walk-through advise on washing machine repairs?
    Click on the link below. Select the appliance and go through the problem you are having.





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    9 times out of 10 it's cheaper to buy a new washing machine than to have the old one repaired. appliance repair shops generally can screw you. the replacement parts are expensive. good luck.

    Advise me on how to start an online business.?

    I have a domain name and a web hosting package. I don't know how to start an online business with my domain name and web-hosting package. Please give me some ideas on the best online business that I can start with the help of my domain name. I am from India.Advise me on how to start an online business.?
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  • Why do the fire exit signs show a running man, when the experts advise not to run to avoid falling & trampling

    I have asked several professionals this question. Usually the answer has been that it is an E.U. stipulation, but that doesn't help folks who have been trampled to death.Why do the fire exit signs show a running man, when the experts advise not to run to avoid falling %26amp; trampling
    Cool question. :)





    Your question could have also asked if people could think up with a better alternative sign.Why do the fire exit signs show a running man, when the experts advise not to run to avoid falling %26amp; trampling
    I did smile when you asked this question. It is a good question to ask. Perhaps designers didn't have much say in how the sign was portrayed back then, but to change it now would bring confusion, at least we know what it means.
    It's just another prime example of how much your 'elf n safety' mob know!
    To make time as swift as possible?
    its to spite you
    no answer to your question - but it's one of the best thought out and funniest I've seen on here


    have a star
    Right, but he is running in the sign cause he is the only one in the building...Seriously though it just means be careful, there will be people that will run out....
    If he was standing still, you would pee on him!!
    he's not running . just walking with big steps. That's acceptable.
    He's not running, he's disco dancin' to get people's attention.





    Have a star from me too :)
    I especially like the one fire escape sign with the man running down the steps, it just looks better than the one of him walking with no urgency.








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    Here's another good sign, not quite a contradiction as your sign implies but it's funny as hell and real.

    I want to get some type of little dog like a pomeranian any advise?

    i want to get maybe a maltese or something any advise?I want to get some type of little dog like a pomeranian any advise?
    Shelter mutt!





    They are temperment tested, inexpensive and come with lots of ';extras';.





    They seem more ';grateful'; than other dogs. They know how bad life can get.





    If you must have a pure breed, look up Tibetian Spaniels.


    They are pretty much perfect. Loving, quiet (they don't yap), not super ';high maintenence'; like other dogs, and absolute sweethearts.I want to get some type of little dog like a pomeranian any advise?
    I got my pom at the dog shelter - he's sitting by me right now and is a great dog. Try the shelter on a regular basis - they get small breeds all the time.





    The best advice I can give you about any dog is to groom him and take food away from him. If the dog growls or tries to bite, he will continue these unacceptable behaviors in the future.





    My previous pom was so mean and aggressive that my son called him ';crackhead'; - he once bit me so hard that he punctured my thumbnail.
    Poms have bad knees, but are very sweet with other dogs and children if you raise them together. Both breeds you mention are high maintainance. grooming and such every 4-6 weeks. I would do lots of research on the a few different breeds that you are interested in. Their temperment, health issues, the best environment for them, make sure that you get a dog that fits your lifestyle. Then when you decide on a breed, if you choose to buy from an individual, make sure you get as much info as you can on the parents of the pups. make sure they are healthy and nice dogs. if you choose a pet shot or the shelter, make sure the puppy has had shots and is healthy. dogs that come from here usually have colds and upper respiratory infections, or other more serious problems so beware. i would pick an individual breeder that has done it for a long time... that is where you can find a good healthy dog.
    I have a maltese that I got from a rescue....he is precious. He was born without a tail at the expense of puppy mill breeders. He was lucky as well as his sibblings that we had to bug them all to get them away from the breeder.





    Any way.....Maltese, Pom, Shih Tzu are excellent. I have a Shih Tzu also. Highly recommended. You can get a maltest from the petfinders.com site. There are plenty that need homes, babies thru adult dogs. Hope this helps honey %26amp; good luck on your baby search. They make a house a home!
    first yorkies are the only dogs that dont shed and their little . maltese and pomeranies arent good dogs they are needy and they bark alot
    Pomeranians are great little dogs! I have raised a lot of toy breeds and they are by far one of the smartest toy breeds I have had. They are very easy to train, loving, and very friendly. On the negative side, they do require frequent grooming, attention, and they can be fairly noisy. Toy poodles and miniature dachshunds are also great little dogs. Excellent temperament, obedient, and relatively low maintenance. All of these dogs require little exercise so, if you live in the city, you don't have to have a huge backyard. Puppyfind.com has a lot of good info on different dog breeds for you to choose from. The best thing is to find the best breed that suits your lifestyle and find a reputable breeder. Good luck with your new puppy!
    Go to your local animal shelter or Humane Society. They regularly get little dogs, such as dachshunds, chihuahuas, and sometimes breeds like Pomerianians.





    Do NOT go to a breeder. For every dog bought from a breeder or pet store, hundreds of unwanted dogs are euthanized in dog shelters because there is not enough room to keep them all to wait to be adopted.
    Research both breeds so you don't end up with a dog that you don't like.





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    Is there any consolation even advise for a broken heart?

    Even one lie breaks a heart.





    How long doe's it take heart break to heal...when I still can't accept it.Is there any consolation even advise for a broken heart?
    Here's what you have to do.


    One you have to realize that for whatever reason you are in pain.


    Two, let it become a part of you. The pain will never go away, but if you turn it into a learning experience then you will be able to accept the fact that a little piece of you has been taken away.


    Three, Love you. You are the only person that can tell you I love you everyday. Write it in lipstick on your mirror, saying before you get out of bed. When you cry hug yourself if no one else can. But you can love yourself enough to know that your heart while it might be missing a piece, it is not broken.Is there any consolation even advise for a broken heart?
    Do what your body is inspiring you to do naturally - cry. Just let it all out. Cry into your pillow, scream, throw your fists in the air. Bawl like a baby until you are gasping for air, then take a warm bubble bath and then take a long nap.





    You'll feel all better when you wake up. You're going to be fine.
    You can never truly love unless you've had your heart broken a couple of times. Time will heal your heart and letting go of whoever will help to. May take some time, but once you begin to get up in the mornings not thinking of that person, you'll be starting on your way to healing. Use the experience to learn! Live and try and Love again.
    Your broken heart will remain broken if you have not found somebody to mend it.
    My ADVICE is to learn how to use the noun ADVICE and the verb ADVISE. And DOES is not a contraction.
    In time the heart will heal and love again. The trust part for the heart is another story because I am not there yet maybe I will never be bit who knows. But the heart will never forget. I am sorry.

    I just got my dog from the pound 7 days ago. She has been coughing and is now vomiting, any advise?

    I have two other dogs, when I got my last dog the vet told me all about kennel cough, he told me not to worry too much, that there is no cure (just like a cold, it has to run it's course) but this one is vomiting... has anyone dealt with this?I just got my dog from the pound 7 days ago. She has been coughing and is now vomiting, any advise?
    Kudos to you for adopting a needy puppy from the pound. Whenever I get a new puppy, the first thing I do is take him to the vet for a check-up and get him started on his shots. Most all puppies have worms, and most, you can't see. I would get him to the vet to get him checked over, and find out the cause of the cough and vomiting, so he can be treated for it.I just got my dog from the pound 7 days ago. She has been coughing and is now vomiting, any advise?
    If you haven't addressed the vomitting to the VET you should. The dog might be sick and you'll have a big medical bill in exchange for not addressing it in time. When you rescue a dog or cat from the pound you have a certain amount of time before they (the pound) can actually fix the problem cause they give you a certain amount of time to address any illnesses.





    Hope this helps.



    Yeah my puppy came with a kennel cough too, 3 weeks and 2 grand later after being told he had a 80% to live he had multiple seizures in a day, and I had to have him put down. Great puppy too.





    Do some research on distemper.
    Call the vet because your pound pup may infect the ones you already have with something.
    vet!!!!!!!!!!! now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Chaste Tree, I want to plant one for privacy but I need advise ???

    I only live on a city lot, but I want some privacy and we have very strict rules about fences. So I want to plant a couple of chaste trees , one in front and in back. I know they can grow huge, but what if I prune them back to say 20 ft x 10 ft. can I do that ?Chaste Tree, I want to plant one for privacy but I need advise ???
    Vitex agnus-castus only grows 8 to10'. Vitex negundo grows 10 to 15', but are often frozen to the ground in the North. they come back 3 to 5' a season. 20' at an arboretum is max under optimal conditions. so go ahead!Chaste Tree, I want to plant one for privacy but I need advise ???
    First of all, planting for trees for privacy is a smart idea. However, I think that you should re-think your choice.





    It is NEVER a good idea to plant a large tree and try to trim/train it to a smaller size. First of all, you will be FIGHTING this tree for the rest of your life!!! And I bet on the TREE to win!! You would have to FAITHFULLY trim this tree at the appropriate time each year. If you don't, it will grow larger than you want. Cutting it back will leave an UGLY tree!!





    So, you need to consult a nursery (not Home Depot) about trees that will STAY the size that you want and that will thrive in your environment. Since you don't give any clues to your location, it is hard to recommend specific plants!!





    Good Luck!!

    I need a very good advise from someone out there?

    I am 32 years and i have not had sex through out, i really want to wait for my husband but now i feel like i should have it because people say that is what is making me look old it is true.I need a very good advise from someone out there?
    Absolutely not true, however being emotionally disturbed most times due to this false belief may cause you the strain that appears as aging. Be proud of what you have now, many wish they do, but can't. You can only really be as old as you think you are. Period!I need a very good advise from someone out there?
    No, It will not make you look old. But being sad can make you look tired, which looks old.
    peeps just naturally get old. it's not coz' of sex. ';people'; should mind what they say next time.
    Your virginity, is in no way making you look old. Your aging, is more heriditary and the amount of time spent in the sun... Things such as that.
    If you feel like waiting, then be sure to wait. Sex provide us various refinements on our body I guess, but there are other ways to remain young and look great :) What about sport, good eating habits, laughing a lot :) try it :)
    Marry %26amp; enjoy.
    Great. For 32 years you maintained your virginity. I advise you to keep it up until you get married. Meanwhile, you can masturbate and tickle your breasts yourself and feel enjoyed.
    false
    i don't believe not having sex makes u look old... you can look old with your looks, acts way of living.... but its not sex. if sex kept people young it will be well known! :)


    you shouldn't have it just because others say so! u should have sex only and just because u want to and feel like ready for it... if u have a person to love and want to marry him and he is willing to wait. go for it. wait. stick to ur ideals. but r u sure that ur having doubts just because of others....? maybe something in u has changed?
    are you a virgin? or you just havent gotten none in a while?... either way... you only look old because you are not feeling youthful because the lack of sex....





    sex feels good and tend to give you good moods before/after/during..... right now youre feeling lonely/desperate and its showing through your looks...





    think of someone who has had a bad day... they look terrible





    you just have a bad day everyday... and you look terrible...





    put some make up on.... go to some bars... flirt a little bit with some bastard... even have sex (optional)





    I bet you will feel and look better the next day!!!1
    no u cant look older because u have not had sex but sex can be a good stress reliever and it is good exercise lol but don't do what u don't want to if u want to wait for ur husband wait
    Absolutely NOT!!! Save yourself for that right guy...You'll be happy with this decision. Sex is something special between two people that really LOVE one another. And don't believe that you are looking older for not putting out.
  • colorsilk
  • Are you a ';Ladies' Man?'; If so, do you have any romantic advise and love making tips?

    Can I pour you a glass of Courvoisier? YeahhhhhhAre you a ';Ladies' Man?'; If so, do you have any romantic advise and love making tips?
    I used to be, all my moves are old and cheesy but I would love a glass, I love a woman with class and a fine taste in cognacAre you a ';Ladies' Man?'; If so, do you have any romantic advise and love making tips?
    Are you asking if I am a manwhore? Advise would be to always be charming and complimentary and lovemaking tips vary with the particular woman.
    Yes I am. Tips? Always make sure your partner is satisfied %26amp; never ever wear a condom because both partners will be left wanting more.
    Always begin by kissing very lightly, softly... almost barely touching.
    Ses bras blancs devinrent tout mon horizon.
    Money
    Oh heck yes! I loved the episode on SNL when he had Cameron Diaz on, too funny!
    A salad will be served ;)
    Yes to all.
    im a ladies shy never going to get one lol
    of course im a ladies man
    i never thought about that, what do you think?





    i AM A MAN MAN
    Of course I am, what, you think I'm a pig or something?
    ... the one with the best advise and love making tips, becomes a contact!!!!! yay!!!!!!


    LOL

    What's ur Advise on becoming a Vegetarian?

    Please share your advise on becoming Vegetarian. A lot of people struggle even they know it's the best and feel most right but can't become one.





    Please share what help you the most on your road becoming a Vegetarian? diet? good cook book? well planning? friends or just own determination. Thank you so much. :-) Go VeggieWhat's ur Advise on becoming a Vegetarian?
    There are a lot of misleading statements, misinformation, and complete lies that will try to sway you or confuse you and what not. But these are easy to overcome through self-education. Why do I say ';Self'; education, simply because you should not believe anyone but yourself, and whatever anyone says, research it, rip it apart, study all sides of the argument, etc. Learn to see through lies, learn to smell when something is fish or not. You must think through everything, not just with vegetarianism, veganism, but natural birth, raw foods vs cooked foods, natural birth vs unnatural birth, and so forth.What's ur Advise on becoming a Vegetarian?
    I think to start and stay with at the beginning is motivation. If someone feels they should become vegetarian but struggle with it they should watch videos like earthlings when they are feeling weak. Another thing that goes a long way later is after not eating meat for a few weeks walk through the meat section of a grocery store and notice the smell. It's disgusting. That makes it very easy not to eat anything that smells like that.
    plz if ur ginna be a vegetarian dont go on and off i tried that b4 and like after a while the smell of meat repulses u i guess and u puke sooooo like dooon't do tha
    The VEG lifestyle is not for everyone. If your body cannot adapt to it, perhaps it is not for the best? Either way- HERE'S SOME NICE TIPS AND THINGS TO CONSIDER!!!





    Well after figuring out what I was actually EATING as a child, I decided animals were people too in a way. :]


    Meaning, I'd rather play with a baby pig, pet a cow, or look at the fish swimming in the clear stream behind my house- than kill them and eat them for dinner.


    It took motivation, but when you know what you want, it is a piece of pie jumping on the Veg Bandwagon. There are THOUSANDS of people who are living the Vegan/Vegetarian lifestyle, so encouragement is one of the few accessories you will be lacking on your journey into Vegetarianism.


    I stopped consuming meat abruptly. For some people, a slow transition is needed. ( For example, cut out all red meat, then white, then fish...etc)


    As far as cooking goes:


    A good cookbook is needed. Starting out, I often began eating allot of the same foods over and over again. Salad for lunch, soups for dinner, fruit for breakfast....repeat!!


    Lol.


    Obviously you will tire of bane recipes as well. You need to perhaps take a liking to some soya products, and start innovating recipes to create new ones everyday.





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    http://vegkitchen.com/





    http://allrecipes.com/Recipes/Everyday-C鈥?/a>





    Those are both inspirational, and some sites for cooking tips!!





    I hope you are on your way to becoming a Vegetarian. It is quite a rewarding lifestyle. For the entire PLANET, NOT just your body. :]





    Peace.


    Go Veg.

    Divorced dad needs some legal advise about my rights.Ex wife being difficult?

    I would like my wife to attend parent/teacher conferences with me for my child who she is very close to.The problem is my exwife(mom) who DOES NOT want my wife to go ';as she is not my sons mother';.Can my ex ';legally'; keep my wife from going if i want her there?I have joint custody with my exwife and the only reason my ex does not want her there is bitterness and control issue.if this goes to court what will the judge say?Divorced dad needs some legal advise about my rights.Ex wife being difficult?
    Well, if you have separate times, then how would she even know? If you have joint custody, then she has no reason to say that your wife can't be there. Maybe explain the situation to the teacher being as politically correct and unbiased as possible--ex. My wife spends a lot of time with my son and she loves him to death. We want him to have the best education possible and think it's important for both of us to hear about what's going on at school so we can best help him at home. Would it be alright if she came in? That way, you're putting your son's needs and interests first.Divorced dad needs some legal advise about my rights.Ex wife being difficult?
    This is the kind of petty crap judges hate to hear. If it goes to court it will be explained to your ex that she cannot control her child's exposure to your wife or your wife's involvment in your child's life unless there is a abuse issue. Hopefully someone will explain to your ex that having more people who love and care about your children is always a good thing. My kids have a huge extended ';family'; They have 3 father-figures (one who is actually their dad) and 3 ';moms'; (my sis and my best friend) and are the better for it. More loving adults in a child's life only improves that life and your ex needs to stop being petty and selfish. She can't legally keep your wife from coming at all! And it's sad that she's trying.
    What the heck... Bring her with!!! this is YOUR call ..not your ex-wifes... do NOT let her run your life. I'm sure your new wife said the exact same thing as me.. btw - you didn't even have to tell her that you were going to bring her with - it is none of her business.


    bring her with..she's your wife....and this is her step-son.


    ((do not let your ex run your life)).. and no, there is nothing she can do to make your wife not go to conferences..you can bring whoever you feel like bringing with!! if it goes to court..the judge would pretty much laugh in her face..and say that its a waste of his time!





    If you give into this..you will be soon giving in to more..like your new wife not being able to attend sporting events for your son,,, or christmas concerts....... put your foot down now.. and do whats right for your wife--and you and her as a couple.....


    I personally would NEVER tell my ex husband that his wife couldn't attend something..if i did..i would only be trying to control him.
    I think it shows wonderful parenting when all the parents wish to attend. Since you are remarried, it is quite common for a new wife/husband to attend school parent teacher conferences for their stepchild so she can share in helping to do her part to both support you but also to assist your daughter where she may need some extra help or encouragement. I like that you scheduled your times at different slots. The goal is to keep this as pleasant as possible and the focus is on your child and how we (exes as well as step parents) can work together to give assistance where it might be needed but also, to do our part which is get past the divorce and move on with life. There are probably a million reasons your marriage didn't work out but you have some beautiful gifts from that time, your children. As apparent that is divorced, I always hope that my children will follow the example to leave the sins of the parents in the past and our job as parents is to raise our children and that takes some work together. Oh, it isn't always possible but with time, perhaps some of the bitterness of some passes and we can all get on the same page, raising up fine children to be adults who learn from our errors and learn from waht is right with us too as they grow up to be even better adults, parents, and community members. You might ask you child what she would like that all of you are interested in her progress and that her step mom would love to go along, would that be alright with you? Some ex'es have an easier time of moving on with life and focusing on just working together to raise these fine youngsters which were what was right with the union into fine adults, parents, emotionally healed from the trauma of divorce, and able to be a partner later in life. Sometimes one of the parents feels threatened by a new step-parent. This is easily rememdied by separating parent teacher conference dates and by clear cut introductions and role as step parent. It hurts the kids most of all for those that remain bitter and hateful. I am glad you are taking the high road and including your ex in important parenting things but also involving your new wife, also a part of your life and your children. Good luck to you and may time be a healer. Cathy Halash, Battle Creek, MI
    Your ex has no basis for this. If you have joint custody (which you're implying), then your new wife has a responsibility to tend the raising of the child on occasion, and should take an interest in the child's educational progress. She should be commended for doing so, too. So few parents take a real interest in even their own children's schooling.
    No, your ex can't say a thing about your new wife being there. Your new wife is just as big a part of your child's life as she is, if you guys have joint custody. Also, legal definition of joint custody states that you both have equal say in the child's life, so just becasue she doens't want something, does not mean that you have to listen to her. Sounds like the ex needs to grow up a bit.
    Actually and I am not trying to be rude or mean because I to am a step parent. The new wife unless you share 50-50 custody with the previous wife and the divorce decree states that ';while in your care you decide medical, education and so forth'; then yes she can. If the child is NOT in your physical care at the time of the conferance then no she can not. However and this is me speaking as a step parent, I do not feel that it is my business to attend parent/teacher conferances I am not the ';parent';. If you really want to take this to court go for it most often then not the courts will side with the mother (sad but true) personally I dont know why your new wife would want to go





    Doesnt matter how many thumbs down I get doesnt matter if you have shared custody but who has PHYSICAL custoday of the child is the one that can make decision.
    Just have her go. Your wife needs to be able to know what's going on with your child's schooling. Your EX needs to grow up and quit using your child to try to punish you. Tell her that if she cannot stop putting your child in the middle that you will take it to court and she will lose.


    I am a step-parent and I attended my step-daughter's IEP meetings and made suggestions at the meetings. It IS a step-parent's right and responsibility to know what it going on in the child's life. For the person below that claimed that a step-parent doesn't have the right, that is BULL. She is probably one of those evil step-mom's that doesn't give a crap about the kids!
    Nope, she cannot legally exclude your wife (while she could exclude her if you were not married). You, as a parent, are welcome to bring your spouse to teacher-parent conferences. Most judges would even encourage it since often the step-mother has a hand in helping the child with homework.
    i think its a good idea your wife goes with you. she is a part of your life and your childs life and your ex should realize that. She is going to be bitter about the situation, but in the end, what can she really do about it, not a thing. In court, if your ex says that you took your wife to the parent teacher conferances, do you really think he is going to gasp and tell you how terrible of a father you are and take the kids away, i dont thinks so, if your ex brings it up, it will make her look stupid, bitter, and childish and like you said they wont run into eachother there so i wouldnt worry about it.
    If your current wife is helping you raise your child there really isn't anything your ex can do about her coming to a p/t conference. And a judge will problem say the same. Try talking to your divorce attorney and see what they say.
    Its up to the judge
    In answer to your question, the court always decides these things in accordance with what is right for the CHILD. Your EX can ask for whatever she wants, but the court will (most likely) deem what it feels is best for the child. Since your current wife has part in his education and deals with the schools, it is far more likely that they will side with you rather than your EX.





    As stated by others, since you have differing times, your EX will not know anyway. If you feel you must go to court over this, remember they want what is best for the child, not what is best for YOU, your EX or your current WIFE.
    First of all, you have seperate times.. try to make sure those seperate times arent close together.. (hers at 3 yours at 3:30)


    No, she cant legally keep your wife from going.


    The judge would say.. to himself - i cant believe she actually brought this bs to my court. out loud- nothing, there is no harm in having a step mother that truely loves and cares for this child. to make it look good on paper, he may say that the conferences are to be held seperately. ( which you already do )


    Tell your wife she is not alone, but your ex will never get control over her.. and being an ex means she no longer gets control over you either. Tell her to worry more about her child and less about your life. The more people the child has loving them the better.
    No,


    I think the only way that could happen is if there were an active restraining order.


    My advice to you would be that you and your wife should go to your child's school and schedule a meeting with the principal. You seem like a calm, rational man, and I'm sure they can work something out as long as you both keep your cool...





    ';Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned';,


    so maybe you should beat her to the punch where any of your child's interests are involved. You (and the woman you've chosen to share your life with) have every right to be a factor in everything this child does, regardless of whose pride it hurts. This is about the well-being of your child, not the one-upmanship of your ex-wife.





    Good luck!


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    Does any body know where I can buy someones defaulted mortgages. Any advise?

    I would like to foreclose on the property myself.Does any body know where I can buy someones defaulted mortgages. Any advise?
    As you have already have been advised call up just about any bank and they will be delighted to talk to you. I don't think you understand though what is involved in foreclosing a mortage, at least in the state where I live. I takes about 6 months and sometimes longer. The attorney fees are not someting to sneeze at. And during that 6 months +, the tenents are trashing the house and not paying a dime. Good luck.Does any body know where I can buy someones defaulted mortgages. Any advise?
    I am sure there are many lenders out there who would sell you some of these mortgages at face value. However, doing so would be extremely stupid, since you would incur a financial loss with almost every one you purchased.





    What ARE you thinking here ?
    Go to bank like bank of america or city bank ask them to buy mortgages you can not make much money maybe 5-6 perceant a year.

    Can someone please advise me what to wear to the Moone Valley day races this weekend?!??!?

    What is that? I don't know what they are but i would say dress in something that could go for casual and dressy. You could always say a true excuse later.Can someone please advise me what to wear to the Moone Valley day races this weekend?!??!?
    Definitely a dress and to really enjoy it a dress that allows a large brimmed hat. Be festive. If it is your first time ask one of your hosts to recommend a style.Can someone please advise me what to wear to the Moone Valley day races this weekend?!??!?
    cant you do it yourself?
    thong and a shirt
    lol
    Nothing

    Puerto Princesa, Palawan, please give advise on the resort rates and nice place to go to?

    We are booked to go to Puerto Princesa this September, havent been there and I heard about underground river, need some advise where to go and nice places to shoot. I am a photographer. Thanks~Puerto Princesa, Palawan, please give advise on the resort rates and nice place to go to?
    I'm fourteen and me and my family went snorkeling in El Nido this year.


    El Nido has to be one of the most beautiful places ever, the water so clear from the shore and so blue in the deep parts.





    The people who run El Nido take you island hopping, they're really nice. So when you're on an island, make sure you'll be able take a picture of the sunset. When we were there the sun looked red!





    I'm not too sure if I'll be able to explain this clearly but I'll try.


    As we went island hopping, you'd see the different islands and assume that was it. But what the people did was take us to the side of this huge island and had us leap into the water (you're given life jackets). There was actually a place where you could swim underneath the cliff and there could be a secluded beach! Later on we found out that there were lots of other secluded beaches, too. It's like having your own private beach, haha.





    The corals are awesome! Lots of different fish, too. If you plan on going to El Nido, make sure you bring goggles, flippers and a snorkel! :D





    El Nido really is beautiful, it's worth to take your camera :]


    I hope it's waterproof, though haha.Puerto Princesa, Palawan, please give advise on the resort rates and nice place to go to?
    El Nido


    Underground River


    :]
    oooo, that sounds great, i'd like to go to puerto princesca and visit el nido too
  • colorsilk
  • Does anyone one have good advise for planning a company golf outing?

    The attendies will be employees, vendors, and clients.Does anyone one have good advise for planning a company golf outing?
    pretty easy. just get some catering. Have it in a tournament format(if there are enough people). You need to reserve the course for tourmant tee times.


    I've actually been to tournaments that had tents w/ strippers in them between some holes. This probably isn't appropriate for your buisness tournament thou.Does anyone one have good advise for planning a company golf outing?
    First of all, make sure that participants pre-register, so you know exactly how many people are coming to the outing. This will help you figure out the food and number of golf carts needed.





    Solicite the vendors for door prizes and gifts. Most vendors have a budget for this and may even have golf appropriate gifts such as golf balls, hats, and shirts.





    Shotgun start is a must. This means all of the foursomes are assigned to a hole to start at at a specific time. Also put the names of the players on the golf carts and the hole they are supposed to start at.





    You may want to try the best ball format instead of the traditional best score format. Each foursome hits a ball and then they select the best shot and all take their next shot from that point. This gives everyone a chance to do something well that day, instead of having a real bad day on their own.





    If you are providing refreshments on the course, it is probably best to wait an hour or two before you start serving alcohol. Otherwise people will get too loaded. You can also provide two drink tickets to each player. Anything beyond that is their own cash.





    Try to not put competitive vendors in the same foursome. It could be unpleasant for the other players.





    Cater the lunch/dinner in a self serve buffet line. This will cut down on serving time and staffing.





    Gives lots of smaller prizes instead of one big prize. Don't drag out the awards too long, some people might want to get going and will feel trapped.
    I've played in company outings before. You'll probably have all kinds of skill levels out there......some good, some bad. I'd suggest having the tournament in a scramble format. Have some food available at the turn or after everyone's played. Have some freebies to give out for longest drive (mens %26amp; womens), longest putt (mens %26amp; womens), %26amp; closest-to-the-pin on a par3 (mens %26amp; womens). You also might considering buying a keg of beer, but some companies might frown on that.
    Break them up into groups of four. Each group should include clients, vendors, and employees. You could have it based on their skill level as well. Have prizes for the best golf scores. Have a catered lunch and have someone ride around in the golf cart with snacks and drinks. Make sure to reserve the course for the day.
    Stacey,





    Not sure what part you need planned, but here it goes.





    ';Tournament format'; - I would recommend a scramble. That way, play keeps moving fairly well, nobody has an individual score that they might get embarassed about, and everybody has a good time.





    For gifts or prizes, use what is called the ';Flight'; system. The top finishers on in the first flight, then there is a cutoff (selected arbitrarily) for the second flight, and so-on, that way teams that are not as good can still win something.





    Get the event catered, and check into golf courses with a banquet hall, or picnic area to set up food, and give out prizes.





    As for the players, make sure you get a solid count and divide them into teams of four. Depending on the number of groups, a shotgun start might be required. A shotgun start is where all the teams start simultaneously on the holes of a golf course. Think of it like Team A starts on the 1st hole, B starts on the 2nd hole, etc and they all play the 18 holes of the course. That way, everyone starts and finishes at the same time.





    Good luck, hope you all have a good time.
    - get a date that for your company golf outing


    - prepare a tournament format.


    * i suggest team style event. by companies.


    * format of play - simplified. 4 to play 3 to count


    handicapping


    - prepare good food for the awarding of prizes after the game


    - have a live entertainer during the awarding.
    Hi, understand that you have plan for a company golf outing, on hand i got a golf %26amp; relax package at A'Famosa Resort, Malacca, Malaysia. For 2D1N just SGD118 / golfer inclusive of 01 night accommodation stay with breakfast, 01 round of 18 holes golfing inclusive of buggy %26amp; 01 buffet Dinner. It is so worth!!!





    Hear a lot of ppl saying that, A'Famosa Resort, Malacca offers an international championship golf course designed by renowned Australian golf course architect, Ross C. Watson and is rated one of the top ten golf course in Malaysia.
    Usually the only decision you really need to make is the venue. Once you've decided on the course you'd like to hold your event at, call the sales director and tell them what you want to do. I'm sure you'll find them all too ready to help you plan your event. If you're price conscious call two or three in your area and work with them to put together packages so you have some options. I've put together events this way in an easy afternoon of phone calls.

    Moving to orlando. Can anyone advise what county to move to that has a good middle school.somthg near UCF?

    Family man will be attending Central Fl. Have a middle schooler that I would like to attend a great school. Where are some good communities within reseasonable driving distance?Moving to orlando. Can anyone advise what county to move to that has a good middle school.somthg near UCF?
    orlando IS in Orange County.what are you asking what part of orange county should you live in as in most municipalities have there own school board and that should be based on quality of living and education. if education is that big on your agenda. then I would recomend you look at private schools.Moving to orlando. Can anyone advise what county to move to that has a good middle school.somthg near UCF?
    Orange County

    Can you give me advise in growing an Aechmea fasciata?

    The sites didn't help cause there weren't any concrete instructions. Like for ex. is the cup suppose to be always filled with water?? And how am I supposed to separate the new plant from the mother-plant%26lt;%26lt;with knife or something??cause I don't know how to separate their roots.Any advice from a real plant grower would be really helpful.Thanks in advanceCan you give me advise in growing an Aechmea fasciata?
    Bromeliads will bloom, produce pups, mother plant will die. Since they're tropical they like having water in their cups. You can leave the plant and pups in the same pot or use a knife and separate the pups for individual planting. You'll have to remove the plants from the pot, remove the soil from the roots so you can see where to cut pups from mother plant.





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    have funCan you give me advise in growing an Aechmea fasciata?
    read all the comments at the bottom of this page....





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    what a beauty!!... now I want one, too!!..





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    I would like to start my own website to make money business with the least amount of overhead, please advise?

    There is one tremendous service (web-hosting) that I adore and use--GoDaddy. Look into their very wonderful selection of plans. I have the middle-range one that provides 50-gig and a lot of other things for nominal charges for about $100/year. And always remember--if you renew your annual fee a month in advance, they will give you a 30 percent discount each year.





    GoDaddy service is fantastic, too. You and the desk can even swap jokes during a call.





    I recommend GoDaddy without qualification, and I and my webmaster (we have about 30 websites linked together) studiied this issue for three months before deciding on a web-host.I would like to start my own website to make money business with the least amount of overhead, please advise?
    google exactly what you put as this question.I would like to start my own website to make money business with the least amount of overhead, please advise?
    go to free website.com ,there u will get guidance

    Could someone advise me of what the first animal or species exited the Arc first?

    the dove

    I am in terrible shape... I have bills and creditors calling all the time can anyone offer me any advise HELP!

    I have tried debt solutions companies but they want more than I can afford..I can't refinance my home b/c of my score and debt to income ratio. It seems like the harder I try the further I fall back. No one wants to give me advise except to file bankruptcy and I just can't bring myself to do that. Most of the bills are charge cards which have been destroyed now. Can someone please help me.I am in terrible shape... I have bills and creditors calling all the time can anyone offer me any advise HELP!
    Look into borrowing The Total Money Make-Over from the library. It's by Dave Ramsey. It explains how to pay off your debt quickly using the snowball effect (which is a lot like what the PP described to you). It works.


    Also check out the Family Finance message board at www.babycenter.com there is a ton of info there.I am in terrible shape... I have bills and creditors calling all the time can anyone offer me any advise HELP!
    You need to contact your debtors and let them know about your situation. In the end, they just want to be paid...even if it's $5 a month. Don't wait around and let them go to collection because the collection agency will continue to tack on fees. Close your charge card accounts and set up a re-payment plan with each one. They don't want to hassle you, they want to get paid.
    I went to a consolidation agency and they helped me out quite a bit. Make sure it's a non-profit one. I had to pay more than before, but they got the interests rates down and my payments way down also. Sometimes you have to pay more, they will work with you. You might be broke for a while, but at least you won't have to file bankruptcy.





    Good luck hun, I know its hard :)
    Oh the memories. My advice is not a quick fix, I will tell you that. If you are in that much debt it will take a long time. First, I take my bills that HAVE to be paid. Rent, power, etc. These you can't ignore. Then I see what I have left over. Depending on that, I make a plan on what debt is the most urgent. The one with the highest balance, the one that has the highest interest rate......then I say ok, I can afford to pay them 50.00 a month. (I recommend taking the one with the lowest balance.) Now, at 50.00 a month I will have them paid off in X amount of time. Meanwhile, I pay the other companies like 15.00 each. They won't like that, but there is nothing they can do because you are paying something. Then when loan number one is paid off, you take that 50.00 and add it to loan number two (that you have been paying 15.00 to.) Now you are paying loan number two 65.00 per month, while the other loans are still getting there 15.00. When loan number two is paid off, you pay loan number three 65.00+15.00 so 80.00 per month, and continue this until all loans are paid off. This method will give EVERYONE some money so that when they call you can say ';I paid you 15.00 this month, that is all I have, I will make another payment when I have more money.'; If you are interested in doing this method I can give you more detailed info. nmskougard@yahoo.com. You have to be patient and VERY organized. GOOD LUCK.
    Just be still, God will provide your needs, pay what you can,a little at a time before you know you will be fine. Gary
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