What advise would you give or what do you think about this scenario?

A teenager is sent to one of his/her parent's home country because this teenager is misbehaving: not getting good grades and he/she has bad attitude because the parents are divorcing, but one of the parent is hoping that the teenage will change due to a new experience or discipline from relatives. So, the teenager lived outside the U.S. for 1-2 years and found a relationship with someone (boyfriend or girlfriend) for a year. Then he/she returned back to the U.S., but he/she still continued to have a long distance relationship, emailing and calling each other. However, the money spent to call him or her is out of his/her own parent's money. Anyways 4 1/2 years later (probably 20 years old now), he/she decides to marry that person (long distance relationship). So, he/she travels back to the country to marry the person. The other person is still finishing school, and he/she doesn鈥檛 have any income. However, the 20 year old did change from her travel, so he/she is a straight A student, he/she belongs to smart clubs or societies, and he/she is active at church. Also, he/she just recently finished junior college, and he/she will have a steady job once he/she arrives to earn money for the both of them. Is marrying a smart move? Because he/she have other plans to finish his/her Bachelor and Master.What advise would you give or what do you think about this scenario?
Wow! No, getting married is not a smart move. He/she should finish college then if they are still in love they can get married. I quit college to get married when I was 19yrs. and I never managed to go back, now I'm 52yrs. People do manage to finish college after they're married, but it's alot harder to do.What advise would you give or what do you think about this scenario?
Thank you, for choosing my answer.

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If they want to be with that person and the feelings are mutual, then there should be no rush to get married. Smart thing to do is finish up the schooling. It would be so much easier and alot less stress if they just waited. They will still be there and support eachother if they love eachother.
I would say everything sounds wonderful..continue with your plans.....Although you are very young,,,,your feelings may, can and will change.....be cacreful and know for sure that this is what you want. I would speak to your pastor first.
who knows if marriage is ever a good move, if we did we wouldn't have one of the highest divorce rates. just wish the happy couple good luck and be happy for them.
They should both establish careers before marriage. Its the only logical solution to your question.
u are the only one who can answer that one.
Nothing in life comes easy. If it's something he/she really feels strong about this person then it's worth the struggle. Good things will come later, just be patient.